I am excited to share my story. I realize we are very early in the journey and anything can happen, but above all else my story and struggle is something I think is important to share.
My journey began over 20 years ago when I was a teenager. Like a lot of young girls I was rebellious. I met my high school sweetheart very young. I was 14 and he was 16. Not long into dating we began having sex and soon found out we were pregnant. It was terrifying to say the least. My Mom was supportive. She ironically had my brother at 14. Soon after though we ended up losing the baby. It was very devastating for my young mind to grasp. I began birth control and didn’t stop taking it for a few years. I gained a lot of weight and during the entire time I was on it never once had a menstrual cycle, which if I might add cannot be healthy.
Moving forward that boy and I broke up and down the road a few years I met who would end up being my first husband. I was not on birth control at the time and we were not using any protection. After a few years of being together and not getting pregnant we realized something wasn’t right. We went through tests and found out, not only did I have PCOS, but he as well had some fertility issues. The chance of us getting pregnant on our own was slim to none. However the cost of fertility treatments was terrifying. I wanted children or even just a child so badly it consumed me. I remember friends telling me they were pregnant and I would go home and cry like a baby. I felt so guilty about that, but was so mad I couldn’t get pregnant. It took a large toll on my marriage and we divorced.
Soon after divorcing I met my soulmate. My very best friend. We ended up getting married two years ago. Again getting pregnant wasn’t something I even thought possible. Until one day when I went to the doctor for what I thought would be him telling me I was dying! I was sick. Everything hurt. Ummm I was pregnant!!!! I was so excited and scared. Unfortunately once again I had a miscarriage. I was defeated. By this time in my life, I realized that if I wanted a baby with my husband I was going to have to be creative.
My best friend. My cousin. She is just like another part of me. We do everything together and we finish each other’s sentences. She has two healthy children and after the miscarriage offered to carry for me. It was an idea we tossed around but never really had a serious conversation about. I truly wasn’t sure how I felt about not being biologically the mother to a baby. As time passed and I thought about it, I realized that she was the closest thing to me. The person I trusted most with my most precious cargo.
Finally she and her husband and my husband I sat down and discussed it. We talked about every single weird thing. Who would do what and how and how we would tell the girls and what we would do if the baby has red hair (my cousin has red hair). I was at the point none of that mattered. We were all so close that I knew in my heart this was right.
Enter Mosie Baby. Obviously, conceiving this baby was going to take some skill. I researched online and purchased the Mosie Kit. I also purchased an abundant amount of ovulation predictors and pregnancy tests. When the line on the ovulation predictor finally appeared that was the first night we attempted.
Basically, my husband put his sample into the cup. I kept it warm under my arm and texted my cousin. She lives three blocks away so was able to get to my house quickly. I pulled the sample into the syringe and she inserted it. A few tips at this point are, make sure when you are sucking up the sample that you go really slow to avoid air bubbles and turn the cup so the entire sample is on one side. Also, when you insert it go really slow when pressing down the plunger so the sperm go up and not come back out.
She then laid down for 30 minutes. We repeated this the next night and the following night. It then was time to wait!
Well as of Saturday morning we are pregnant!!!!
Mrs. KH in Pennsylvania
This story took our breath away. Perseverance, trust and love brought you guys to where you are and we’re thrilled to have been even a small part of the story. Thank you all so much for sharing. Thinking outside the box to make your dreams come true is what it takes sometimes. We salute everyone involved for the thoughtful generous plan around this conception story and wish you all a healthy term and new addition. If you are considering surrogacy be sure to check in with a family law attorney to make sure you're thinking through all the necessary issues and consider doing a surrogacy contract between all the involved parties. Our best to you all! - Marc + Mo